How To Ask Your Partner For New Things In The Bedroom | September 2024
Happy September Babes!
In today's write up we’re gonna help the couples and the single folk who don’t quite know how to ask to incorporate something NEW in the bedroom.
I did a funny YOUTUBE VIDEO a little while ago on a topic similar to this one but what if there are NEW things you want to introduce into the bedroom like anal, pegging, choking, BDSM and more!?
Tip Number 1:
Make sure you have consent! Before trying anything new I think it’s super important to ask your partner for their permission (enthusiastically) before proceeding. You never know the kind of emotions you can trigger by imposing a new sexual act onto someone without discussing it and getting their consent first.
Tip Number 2:
Ask about boundaries. Sure, your partner pay say YES to incorporating choking in the bedroom but what are the boundaries? How tight is too tight? Is there a safe word? These are all important things to discuss in order to make sure you’re handling each act with care.
Tip Number 3:
Take it slow and take baby steps. Whether you’ve done this before with another partner or this is something new for you to experience too, it’s important to check the temperature and take it slow with WHATEVER you’re doing. When it comes to things like anal or pegging it’s important to make sure you’re being extremely patient and are taking your time.
Tip Number 4:
Check in! Do constant check-ins to make sure your partner is enjoying it. It may seem like you’re being annoying but it’s better to check in “too much” than to learn your partner is feeling neglected.
Tip Number 5:
Talk about it afterward and check in emotionally, mentally and physically.
Now as for ways to verbally ask your partner here are some sexy scripts you can try out.
“It turns me on to think about you doing ________ to/with me… What do you think?”
“I’d like to try _____ together. Are you comfortable with that, you being comfortable is super important to me?”
“I want to try this new _____ I learned, can we try this together? (if yes) do you have any boundaries surrounding this?”
“It would really turn me on if you/we _____ are you comfortable with trying this?”
“I LOVE it when you do _____ babe, do you want to/do I have your consent to try _____”
These are just guidelines that you can jazz up and make your own but they can be really helpful in introducing new things into the bedroom with your new or established partner.
Intimacy should be FUN and SAFE and I talk all about ways to feel more pleasure and intimacy on my podcast THE LOVE ATIYA EXPERIENCE so feel free to tune in to continue this conversation. I hope you have a healthy, happy and pleasurable rest of your september.
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