How To Feel More Pleasure | August 2024
WELCOME TO AUGUST BEAUTIFUL SOULS!
Happy almost birthday to all of my Virgos out there it is our seasonnnnn!
Since it’s my fabulous birthday month I want to talk about something I'm really passionate about which is… Why pleasure is SO damn important.
In one of my previous emails I touched on how pleasure can be found in so many different ways outside of sexuality but have we really taken the time out to ponder as to why pleasure is such an important necessity?
First let’s google what the definition of pleasure is.
pleasure
wait upon his pleasure
—William Shakespeare
: a state of gratification
: sensual gratification
: frivolous amusement
: a source of delight or joy
pleasure
pleasured; pleasuring ˈplezh-riŋ ˈplāzh-; ˈple-zhə-, ˈplā-
: to give pleasure to : GRATIFY
: to give sexual pleasure to
When you look up the opposite of pleasure you get really sad results and that’s how I like to think about life. Life with shame surrounding pleasure can be a really saddening existence.
By now you already know the story of my mom buying me my first vibrator at the age of 16 but what’s super important about that moment is how much my mom destigmatized pleasure for me.
Little boys are often taught to explore pleasure within themselves because “boys will be boys” but little girls are taught that pleasure and sexual exploration is shameful. Although the definition literally has words like “delight of joy” why are we often not allowed or encouraged to feel this?
What are some ways we can remove the shame around pleasure?
We can become more intimate in our lives in general. Creating more intimate connections with friends and more intimate connections with our lives.
How can we become more intimate with ourselves?
We can identify what pleasure FEELS like to us. What IS actually pleasurable for you?
We can do the things that make us feel that pleasurable feeling while staying away from things that make us feel shameful or less intimate.
We can get curious about our exploration with pleasure, how many things in life can you find that bring you the utmost pleasure?
We can practice showcasing our pleasure unapologetically. I used to think of my pleasure like my happiness; I wanted to hide it from the world because I didn’t want anyone to steal it, be envious of it or take it away. Now?! I am finding new ways to experience pleasure out loud and create a more intimate relationship with life as a whole.
And that’s that!
I hope these curious questions and inquiries can help guide you towards an even more pleasurable experience of life.
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